Tuesday, January 31, 2012

8 years later....

you are still my everything!  Happy 8th Anniversary J!  





"In this crazy life and through these crazy times, it's you, it's you, you are my everything."  `michael buble

Saturday, January 28, 2012

because I don't have much else to blog about these days....

1. Were you named after anyone?
If I remember correctly, my parents named me Krista after spending some time in Spain and hearing the name there.  My middle name is my moms maiden name.  It is a very different unique name so as a young child I hated it, but now I appreciate it!

2. When was the last time you cried?
Hmmm... I cry a lot for different reasons.  I am one of those that cries at commercials or Ellen when she gives money to deserving families.  I think my last all out crazy cry was at Christmas when I missed my girls so much.

3. Do you like your handwriting?
NO- it is horrible!  Now that I mostly type, it is just getting worse. I feel bad for people that have to try to read it!

4. What is your favorite lunch meat?
definitely turkey. 

5. Do you have kids?
Two daughters in heaven - Brooke and Alexcyn  and two living boys - Grant and Ashton.

6. If you were another person would you be friends with you?
I would hope so!!!  However, after the ups and downs of the last 5 years, I will admit that I have lost some friends so obviously not everyone wants to be friends with me.  I am so thankful for the few that stuck through it with me though!

7. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Nope.

8. Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes.

9. Would you bungee jump?
NEVER- I hate heights!

10. What is your favorite cereal?
I love Oatmeal Squares, but that is the most expensive cereal for some reason.  So, this budget conscious girls typically just has Multi Grain Cheerios which I also think are delicious.


11. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?
If we are being honest here, the only shoes that tie are my tennis shoes and I couldn't tell you the last time I put those on.  Exercise really isn't a word in my vocabulary these days!  I usually slip on boots or Sketchers in the winter and flats or flips in the summer.


12. Do you think you are strong?
Physically- no.
Emotionally- yes.  I have survived the loss of my twin daughters and I feel that requires unimaginable strength.


13. What is your favorite ice cream?
Kilwins Mint Chocolate Chip is my go to favorite.  Although when I was pregnant last summer, I always wanted to inhale French Silk from Kilwins.  When I go to Cold Stone, I always get dark chocolate with raspberries- yum!


14. What is the first thing you noticed about people?
Eyes- I am big into direct eye contact.  I feel that you can tell so much about a person the first time you take a deep look into their eyes.


15. Red or pink?
Pink.

16. What is the least favorite thing about yourself?
At this moment I will say my pudgy baby belly.


17. Who do you miss the most?
My baby girls.


18. What are you listening to right now?
Jake and the Never Land Pirates on Disney channel.


19. Mountain hideaway or beach house?
Beach House.


20. Scary movies or happy endings?
Happy Endings.


21. Hugs or kisses?
I love a big bear hug!


22. What book are you reading now?
I have no time to dig into a book right now so I usually catch a parenting magazine here and there since you can read those in about 15 minutes.


23. Favorite sound?
So many.... laughter from Ashton and Grant saying, "I love you so much mommy" would have to be my favorites at the moment.


24. What color is your house?
orange/brown brick with brown trim


25. What color is your car?
Greyish blue.  

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Day 21

Photo Challenge Day 21- Where You Sleep...

About 6 months into Grant's life, it became very clear to us that he was not going to be a good sleeper.  At 2 1/2, he is still waking up in the middle of the night for reasons we just can't figure out!  Thankfully, it doesn't happen every night, but it is often enough to make him a worse sleeper than his 3 month old brother!  There are times that we can tell he is just dreaming and we let him cry it out.  But, there are those times that he is screaming his head off and we know that we need to get up with him.  Now, we realize that everyone has their own opinions on the right thing and the wrong thing to do at that moment....  Our outcome usually depends on the night, who gets up with him, and just how tired we are.  I have been known to lay down and fall asleep on the floor with him on occasion. And yes, this crazy child still prefers to sleep on the floor!  Jason tends to grab G with all his blankies and B the bunny and throws him into bed with us.  Hence the perfect subject for photo challenge day 21- where you sleep....


So, for now, this is where Jason, myself and (on occasion) Grant sleep  He is sleeping at the bottom of our bed- on my side of course!  If it is my night off, I tend to sleep through all the drama and then I suddenly wake up to Grant kicking me in the back, pulling my hair or in this instance, laying on my legs!  After sleeping with G this night, we decided the reason he hates his bed is because he is a wiggle worm and a toddler bed does not allow for a lot of wiggle room!  We really hope to get him out of this stage at some point soon because we are ready to move Ashton into the room with Grant but worry that Grant will wake Ashton up!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

3 months



Every time the 18th of the month rolls around, I dread it!  That is because it means my baby is one month older.  I really wish I could just make time stand still because Ashton is growing up way too fast!

Ashton Nowell, this is what you have been up to your third month...



*you smile a lot.  Especially when you see your momma :)

*you talk all the time too.  I just love all the oohs and ahhs.  You even try to mimic what we are saying to you.

*you have been sleeping through the night for a while now!!!!  You are finally settling yourself into a routine.  You take a short nap around 10 and then a long nap around 1.  You are ready to go to sleep at 10 no matter what and you sleep until 7:30.  Some mornings you surprise us and wake at 6 but that is ok.  As long as most nights we get uninterrupted sleep, we are so happy!  Now if we could just teach your brother to be a better sleeper....



*you wear size 3 clothes and size 1 diapers.

*you want to eat 4 ounces every 2-3 hours. Can't seem to get you to break that cycle.  You are just like your brother when he was your age!

*speaking of your brother.... he loves you so much!  He likes to lay down next to you on the floor and he says, "Gant luv his baby broder."  He also likes to hold you.  He will say, "Gant hold Ashen Nowl."  So, I set him up on the couch and put you in his arms and after about 2 seconds he says, "too heavy" and pushes you off his lap. Good thing I never fully trust Grant and am always right there to grab you!



*you still love your baths.  On the rare times that you are fussy for no reason, we know that a bath will cheer you up!


*you are such a content, happy baby.  We can lay you on the floor under your activity mat and you are happy as can be. You just lay there and talk to yourself and kick your legs like crazy!



*you are starting to reach for things and last night reached out and touched my face.

*the other day I looked over and you were on your side!  I am really not ready for you to start rolling yet so I am NOT encouraging this action!



 *you are very ticklish and laugh when I change your clothes!  I love that sweet sound of your laughter so I try to change your clothes as often as possible!

You have really lost that infant look this month and are starting to become a little boy. I just love watching you as you discover new things like your hands and how amazing they are.  We love you so much and are so thankful for the last three months with you!  ~mommy and daddy

I asked Grant to get on the chair and make you smile and this was the face you gave when he looked at you!  Brotherly love at its best!!!!

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Photo project...

I found this fun photography project on Pinterest.  I thought it would be a great way to combine two of my goals for 2012- learn  more about my camera and be grateful for the little things.  I am not planning on doing this in 30 days or in the order specified.  I figure I will take my time and try to catch little things that I am grateful for as the year passes. 

Project...



Day 20:  Seasonal
I LOVE the first snowfall.  I think I revert back to my childhood days of living in the South.  The few times that it snowed, it was a BIG deal.  Everything shut down for days and we would sled, make snowmen and play outside for hours on end.  Even though I now live in the snowy North, I still get all giddy like a child when we have a large snow storm.  Today has been my ideal winter day of sitting by the fire, sipping hot chocolate, gazing out the window at the fluffy snow flakes gliding down to the ground and taking Grant outside to do snow angels.

As I loaded this picture, I realized it is not my best attempt at a picture.  However, I am all snuggled up inside now and have no desire to go back out there so this will have to do for now!  Hopefully my photography skills get better from here!
"Everything is magical when it snows. The world changes. It is quiet. Everything softens." ~ Lorelai Gilmore

Sunday, January 8, 2012

I am re posting this from Team Studer blog which can be found here.  I came across this on a FB page of a friend and thought it was really cool and wanted to share it with all of you. (I have no idea why this looks so funny- it is fine in my edit view)

 

25 Rules for Mothers of Sons

Inspired by a Pin I've recently seen about "rules for dads with daughters," I went searching for a similar list for moms with sons.  This search was mostly fruitless, so I was inspired to write my own Rules for Moms with Sons.  Granted, my list will not be conclusive and may not be entirely uncontroversial.  So agree, or disagree, or take with a grain of salt - but I hope to inspire other moms who are loving, and struggling, and tired, and proud, and eager to support the boys in their lives.  You are the most important woman in his life, his first teacher, and the one he will look to for permission for the rest of his life.  From "Can I go play with them?" to "Should I ask her to marry me?"  Its a big job, but as the mumma, we're up for it.

25 Rules for Moms with Sons


1. Teach him the words for how he feels.
Your son will scream out of frustration and hide out of embarrassment.  He'll cry from fear and bite out of excitement.  Let his body move by the emotion, but also explain to him what the emotion is and the appropriate response to that emotion for future reference.  Point out other people who are feeling the same thing and compare how they are showing that emotion.  Talk him through your emotions so that someday when he is grown, he will know the difference between angry and embarrassed; between disappointment and grief.


2. Be a cheerleader for his life
There is no doubt that you are the loudest person in the stands at his t-ball games.  There is no doubt that he will tell you to "stop, mom" when you sing along to his garage band's lyrics.  There is no doubt that he will get red-faced when you show his prom date his pictures from boy scouts.  There is no doubt that he is not telling his prom date about your blog where you've been bragging about his life from his first time on the potty to the citizenship award he won in ninth grade.  He will tell you to stop.  He will say he's embarrassed.  But he will know that there is at least one person that is always rooting for him.

3. Teach him how to do laundry
..and load the dishwasher, and iron a shirt.  He may not always choose to do it.  He may not ever have to do it.  But someday his wife will thank you.


4. Read to him and read with him.
Emilie Buchwald said, "Children become readers on the laps of their parents."  Offer your son the opportunity to learn new things, believe in pretend places, and imagine bigger possibilities through books.  Let him see you reading...reading the paper, reading novels, reading magazine articles.  Help him understand that writing words down is a way to be present forever.  Writers are the transcribers of history and memories.  They keep a record of how we lived at that time; what we thought was interesting; how we spoke to each other; what was important.  And Readers help preserve and pass along those memories.


5. Encourage him to dance.
Dance, rhythm, and music are cultural universals.  No matter where you go, no matter who you meet - they have some form of the three.  It doesn't have to be good.  Just encourage your son that when he feels it, it's perfectly fine to go ahead and bust a move.

6. Make sure he has examples of good men who are powerful because of their brains, their determination, and their integrity.
The examples of men with big muscles and a uniform (like Batman and LaMarr Woodley) will surround your son from birth.  But make sure he also knows about men who kick a$s because of their brains (Albert Einstein), and their pen (Mark Twain), and their words (Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.), and their determination (Team Hoyt), and their ideas (The Wright Brothers), and their integrity (Officer Frank Shankwitz), and fearlessness (Neil Armstrong), and their ability to keep their mouths closed when everyone else is screaming (Jackie Robinson).

7. Make sure he has examples of women who are beautiful because of their brains, their determination, and their integrity
The examples of traditionally beautiful women (like Daphne Blake, Princess Jasmine, and Britney Spears) will surround your son from birth.  But make sure he knows about women who are beautiful from the inside out because of their brains (Madame Marie Curie), and their pen (Harper Lee), and their words (Eleanor Roosevelt), and their determination (Anne Sullivan), and their ideas (Oprah Winfrey), and their integrity (Miep Gies), and fearlessness (Ameila Earhart), and their ability to open their mouths and take a stand when everyone else is silent (Aung San Suu Kyi).

8. Be an example of a beautiful woman with brains, determination, and integrity.
You already are all of those things.  If you ever fear that you are somehow incapable of doing anything - remember this:  If you have done any of the following:  a) grew life b) impossibly and inconceivably got it out of your body c) taken care of a newborn d) made a pain go away with a kiss e) taught someone to read f) taught a toddler to eat with a utensil g) cleaned up diarrhea without gagging h) loved a child enough to be willing to give your life for them (regardless if they are your own) or i) found a way to be strong when that child is suffering...you are a superhero.  do not doubt yourself for one second.  Seriously.


9. Teach him to have manners
because its nice.  and it will make the world a little better of a place.


10. Give him something to believe in
Because someday he will be afraid, or nervous, or heartbroken, or lost, or just need you, and you won't be able to be there.  Give him something to turn to when it feels like he is alone, so that he knows that he will never be alone; never, never, never.


11. Teach him that there are times when you need to be gentle
like with babies, and flowers, and animals, and other people's feelings.


12. Let him ruin his clothes
Resolve to be cool about dirty and ruined clothes.  You'll be fighting a losing battle if you get upset every time he ruins another piece of clothing. Don't waste your energy being angry about something inevitable.  Boys tend to learn by destroying, jumping, spilling, falling, and making impossible messes.  Dirty, ruined clothes are just par for the course.


13. Learn how to throw a football
or how to use a hockey stick, or read music, or draw panda bears (or in my case alpacas), or the names of different train engines, or learn to speak Elvish, or recognize the difference between Gryffindor and Slytherin, or the lyrics to his favorite song.  Be in his life, not as an observer but as an active participant.


14. Go outside with him
turn off the television, unplug the video games, put your cellphone on the charger, even put your camera away.  Just go outside and follow him around.  Watch his face, explore his world, and let him ask questions.  It's like magic.

15. Let him lose
Losing sucks.  Everybody isn't always a winner.  Even if you want to say, "You're a winner because you tried," don't.  He doesn't feel like a winner, he feels sad and crappy and disappointed.  And that's a good thing, because sometimes life also sucks, no matter how hard (as moms) we try to make it not suck for our kids.  This practice will do him good later when he loses again (and again, and again, and again, and again.....)  Instead make sure he understands that - sometimes you win - sometimes you lose.  But that doesn't mean you ever give up.

Source: None via Emma on Pinterest

16. Give him opportunities to help others
There is a big difference in giving someone the opportunity to help and forcing someone to help.  Giving the opportunity lights a flame in the heart and once the help is done the flame shines brighter and asks for more opportunities.  Be an example of helping others in your own actions and the way your family helps each other and helps others together. 

17. Remind him that practice makes perfect.
This doesn't just apply to performance-based activities (like sports and music) but also applies to everything in life.  You become a better writer by writing.  You become a better listener by listening.  You become better speaker by speaking.  Show your son this when he is just young enough to understand (that means from birth, folks - they are making sense of the world as soon as they arrive), practice trick-or-treating at your own front door before the real thing.  Practice how you will walk through airport security before a trip.  Practice how you order your own food from the fast food cashier.  Practice, practice, practice.

18. Answer him when he asks, "Why?"
Answer him, or search for the answer together.  Show him the places to look for the answers (like his dad, or grandparents, or his aunts/uncles, or his books, or valid internet searches).  Pose the question to him so he can begin thinking about answers himself.  Someday, when he needs to ask questions he's too embarrassed to ask you - he'll know where to go to find the right answers.


19. Always carry band-aids and wipes on you.
especially the wipes.


20. Let his dad teach him how to do things
...without interrupting about how to do it the 'right way.'  If you let his dad show and teach and discover with your son while he is growing up, some day down the road (after a short period of your son believing his dad knows nothing), he will come to the realization that his dad knows everything.  You will always be his mother, but in his grown-up man heart and mind, his dad will know the answers.  And this will be how, when your son is too busy with life to call and chat with his mom,  you will stay connected to what is happening in his life.  Because he will call his dad for answers, and his dad will secretly come and ask you.


21. Give him something to release his energy
drums, a pen, a punching bag, wide open space, water, a dog.  Give him something to go crazy with - or he will use your stuff.  and then you'll be sorry.


22. Build him forts
Forts have the ability to make everyday normal stuff into magic.  Throw the couch cushions, a couple blankets, and some clothespins and you can transform your living room into the cave of wonders.  For the rest of his life, he'll be grateful to know that everyday normal stuff has the potential to be magical.


Source: None via Tabitha on Pinterest

23. Take him to new places
Because it will make his brain and his heart open up wider, and the ideas and questions and memories will rush in.


Source: None via Anne on Pinterest

24. Kiss him
Any mother of sons will tell you that little boys are so loving and sweet.  They can be harsh and wild and destructive during most of the day.  But there are these moments when they are so kind and sensitive and tender.  So much so that it can cause you to look around at the inward, reserved grown men in your life and think, 'what happens in between that made you lose that?'  Let's try to stop the cycle by kissing them when they're loving and kissing them even more when they're wild.  Kissing them when they're 2 months and kissing them when they're 16 years old.  You're the mom - you can go ahead and kiss him no matter how big he gets - and make sure he knows it.   p.s. (this one is just as important for dad's too).


25. Be home base
You are home to him.  When he learns to walk, he will wobble a few feet away from you and then come back, then wobble away a little farther and then come back.  When he tries something new, he will look for your proud smile.  When he learns to read, he will repeat the same book to you twenty times in a row, because you're the only one who will listen that many times.  When he plays his sport, he will search for your face in the stands.  When he is sick, he will call you.  When he really messes up, he will call you.  When he is grown and strong and tough and big and he feels like crying, he will come to you; because a man can cry in front of his mother without feeling self-conscious.  Even when he grows up and has a new woman in his life and gets a new home, you are still his mother; home base, the ever constant, like the sun.  Know that in your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

eleven in eleven re-cap...

If you recall, at the beginning of 2011, I had these grand plans for the year.  How did I do???  Well, not so good to be honest!  I obviously should have referred back to my post because I totally forgot about a couple of them!

1.  I did not learn to sew.  I still have yet to get a sewing machine and honestly at this point I don't have anywhere to put one so I guess this goal will have to be put on the back burner for a while.

2.  I did really well with trying new recipes.  I posted most of them but once Ashton was born, I just didn't have time, but I promise I did make new recipes!  I am going to keep this as a goal for 2012 as well because it is a great reason to make something fun that I normally wouldn't make.

3.  I did not attend an afternoon tea.  No good reason other than I just forgot about this being a goal of mine for the year!

4.  I did get involved in church more.  Not necessarily as much as I would have liked, but it was a start.  I volunteer in our nursery and 2's church now.  I was unable to help with VBS because I was pregnant and on low activity at that point of the summer.  And, I never got to sing in a choir either due to the pregnancy.  For some reason, I get really lightheaded and faint when standing and singing while I am pregnant.  I usually just stand there singing in my head or I sit down so I can actually belt out a good song.  I did however go way out of my comfort zone one Sunday when Ashton and I "played" Mary and baby Jesus in front of church.  That should count for something!

5.  I did not make a fancy gingerbread house.  I ran out of time and I wasn't sure Grant would be into it as much as I wanted him to be.  Another goal to look forward to in 2012!

6.  I did stop watching trashy tv!  No more bachelor or teen mom for this girl.  I really watch more Mickey Mouse than anything else these days.

7.  This one is still a daily challenge for me especially now that we are squeezing 4 people into a 2 bedroom house.  I am envious of people that have more rooms than people and actually have a place to put their storage instead of the middle of their basement living room!  I would love to have a nice new home, but after trying to sell ours unsuccessfully this summer, I am working on accepting the fact that God has other plans for us.  Our message in church on Sunday was about finances and God and one of the points was to stop comparing yourself to the Jones' and start comparing yourself to Jesus.  I think that will be my motto for 2012!

8.  Did not read my daily Bible half as much as I intended to.  Didn't really read anything that took longer than 2 minutes to read since my extra time this past year was limited.

9.  Did not take a photography class due to the limited time mentioned above.  I am going to do a few fun 30 day photo projects that I found on Pinterest in order to try to keep up with my photography this year though. 

10.  I did keep in contact with friends and family better.  I need to get rid of all my note cards from last year though since they have our family names on them and Ashton is obviously not included so I guess I need to send out even more cards in the next few weeks.

11.  I did struggle with enjoying every moment as J wasn't thrilled with me not taking time to make dinner each night!  My plan for this year is to start pre-planning meals so that I can spend more time enjoying the moments I am home with my boys.

12.  No, I never got to be part of a flash mob.  We just missed one when we were in Chicago a few weeks ago- I was so bummed.  I think I am over this one at this point. 

Well, that wraps up 2011 for me.  How did you do with your goals for 2011????